Talk About It Tuesday

Is Masturbation Offensive in a Monogomous Relationship?

Hello, America!

  I often get questioned about my obvious love for sex and self-gratification. And I know plenty of other men and women that also indulge in themselves more often than not. But so many questions about masturbation come from inquiring minds wondering if it's perfectly normal or at least minimally acceptable once you've found a mate to replace the toys, intense lubes, videos, and hand action.

  Personally, I think it's natural and healthy to please yourself, regardless if your in a relationship or not. I pleasure myself before sex as foreplay, during sex for a more heightened moan-gasm, and after to calm me down. Now, to many, that may be a bit excessive. But to me, that's the norm. Every person is different, but I'm sure everyone that says that masturbation is gross, or even repulsive, is a closet freak that beats off  the moment they think no one's watching.

  A man won't hide the fact that he enjoys the the thrill of his throbbing member between his fingers while watching Nina Hartley suck and blow until she's covered in a stranger's jism. But a woman will defend her precious honor that she will NEVER do such a thing to herself. Why is this? And when women encounter a man enjoying himself with a stroke of his own hand, she's so offended. I don't get it. If my man likes to please himself with his hands, then he is so allowed to do it. I'd rather he choke his chicken than screw a chickenhead.

  Now, there are quite a few men in the crevices of the universe that get upset to see their women get off on all their own. They tend to feel left out, and in my mind, the men are simply being selfish and controlling. I'm sure with enough communication and understanding, a relationship can thrive with masturbation present. Hell, you can even indulge in mutual masturbation if the mood is right. I suggest that some you prudes try it. It may seem a bit odd at first, but if you are pleasing yourself right, things will get easier, the room a bit steamier, and the sex more satisfying. Believe me, I know.

  My questions to you, America: How much is too much in a relationship? And why should there even be a limit?

  I'm signing off until next week, so let's talk about it!

                                                               -A. Wiley