Hello, America!
A cliche says that all is fair in love and war. But does that same rule apply in the bedroom? There are men in positions of power that love to be cuckholded and dominated and spanked behind closed doors, while there are 25 year old women pretending to be younger babysitters sneaking to take care of the man of the house instead of the children. That's pretty much only in porn. But in relationships, a mate's goals are to please the other mate. Oral sex plays a massive role in pleasure for most couples. I've known a number of couples that have a chief complaint about the fair play of the lip and tongue action below the belly button.
I have had male partners of my own that can be downright selfish when it comes to giving the clitoris a long kiss goodnight, and I've had female partners that would rather taste the forbidden fruit than to use her lover's mouth as a cup for her own juices. I love to please my mate if they are deemed worthy, and I'm also a huge fan of receiving as well. But it's not my sex life that's in question. There are relationships falling to pieces right now because of the lack of communication about 'sexpectations' and 'sinhibitions'. Why is that?
If a woman craves to the taste of her lover's meatstick then she should be allowed to do so. And if a man wants to take a dive in her muff, then by all means let the man dive! Who are you to stop them? And a better question is WHY WOULD YOU??
I wanna know, America, if your partner would rather give than receive oral sex, how much is fair play? And how do you communicate to him or her that you would love to please them in that way as well as enjoy the work he or she puts into you? Let's talk about it!
Signing off until next week- A. Wiley
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Talk About It Tuesday
Is Masturbation Offensive in a Monogomous Relationship?
Hello, America!
I often get questioned about my obvious love for sex and self-gratification. And I know plenty of other men and women that also indulge in themselves more often than not. But so many questions about masturbation come from inquiring minds wondering if it's perfectly normal or at least minimally acceptable once you've found a mate to replace the toys, intense lubes, videos, and hand action.
Personally, I think it's natural and healthy to please yourself, regardless if your in a relationship or not. I pleasure myself before sex as foreplay, during sex for a more heightened moan-gasm, and after to calm me down. Now, to many, that may be a bit excessive. But to me, that's the norm. Every person is different, but I'm sure everyone that says that masturbation is gross, or even repulsive, is a closet freak that beats off the moment they think no one's watching.
A man won't hide the fact that he enjoys the the thrill of his throbbing member between his fingers while watching Nina Hartley suck and blow until she's covered in a stranger's jism. But a woman will defend her precious honor that she will NEVER do such a thing to herself. Why is this? And when women encounter a man enjoying himself with a stroke of his own hand, she's so offended. I don't get it. If my man likes to please himself with his hands, then he is so allowed to do it. I'd rather he choke his chicken than screw a chickenhead.
Now, there are quite a few men in the crevices of the universe that get upset to see their women get off on all their own. They tend to feel left out, and in my mind, the men are simply being selfish and controlling. I'm sure with enough communication and understanding, a relationship can thrive with masturbation present. Hell, you can even indulge in mutual masturbation if the mood is right. I suggest that some you prudes try it. It may seem a bit odd at first, but if you are pleasing yourself right, things will get easier, the room a bit steamier, and the sex more satisfying. Believe me, I know.
My questions to you, America: How much is too much in a relationship? And why should there even be a limit?
I'm signing off until next week, so let's talk about it!
-A. Wiley
Hello, America!
I often get questioned about my obvious love for sex and self-gratification. And I know plenty of other men and women that also indulge in themselves more often than not. But so many questions about masturbation come from inquiring minds wondering if it's perfectly normal or at least minimally acceptable once you've found a mate to replace the toys, intense lubes, videos, and hand action.
Personally, I think it's natural and healthy to please yourself, regardless if your in a relationship or not. I pleasure myself before sex as foreplay, during sex for a more heightened moan-gasm, and after to calm me down. Now, to many, that may be a bit excessive. But to me, that's the norm. Every person is different, but I'm sure everyone that says that masturbation is gross, or even repulsive, is a closet freak that beats off the moment they think no one's watching.
A man won't hide the fact that he enjoys the the thrill of his throbbing member between his fingers while watching Nina Hartley suck and blow until she's covered in a stranger's jism. But a woman will defend her precious honor that she will NEVER do such a thing to herself. Why is this? And when women encounter a man enjoying himself with a stroke of his own hand, she's so offended. I don't get it. If my man likes to please himself with his hands, then he is so allowed to do it. I'd rather he choke his chicken than screw a chickenhead.
Now, there are quite a few men in the crevices of the universe that get upset to see their women get off on all their own. They tend to feel left out, and in my mind, the men are simply being selfish and controlling. I'm sure with enough communication and understanding, a relationship can thrive with masturbation present. Hell, you can even indulge in mutual masturbation if the mood is right. I suggest that some you prudes try it. It may seem a bit odd at first, but if you are pleasing yourself right, things will get easier, the room a bit steamier, and the sex more satisfying. Believe me, I know.
My questions to you, America: How much is too much in a relationship? And why should there even be a limit?
I'm signing off until next week, so let's talk about it!
-A. Wiley
Thursday, September 2, 2010
The Last Exorcism-- My Thoughts
Now this movie has been getting mixed reviews by the public, I had the pleasure of going to see this flick ALONE and I must say I enjoyed the movie. I am a huge fan of horror movies & almost always will go to the theaters to see anything that's "dubbed" horror. There were moments in this film where I was lost and had no clue what was going on. Once I thought I realized what the plot was getting to, it changed once more. Very clever and done nicely. I don't think the purpose of the movie was to describe or give you all the answers, you're supposed to leave the theaters wondering what happened and decide for yourself what to believe. Much like what Cotton & Louis had to do. I HOPE there will be a sequel, i can see a few ways it could be introduced, i would just hope that the same small budget & lack of detail in trailer approach is kept.
If you like films that iron out everything for you, put them out on the table and have you saying "Oh, I KNEW it! I thought that was going to happen" then this is NOT the film for you. If you need a breath of fresh air and soemthing that will challenge your mental plane, I would suggest you stay away from conversations about this movie, go see it for yourself and develop your own thesis.
Leave asking: What do I believe?
Have you ever been confronted with a Millitant Christian?
In the year 2010, we are facing a time where everyone is seeking refuge. With hollywoods constant depiction of "2012", increased violence & weather patterns shocking the nation what else is there left to do? We must always remember to beware of those who wear masks. Everything that we are confronted with is not right, it is up to us to decide what our spiritual side connects with. What am I talking about?
. Some christians, and some not so christians use this as an opportunity to prey upon the weak minded and easily persuaded. Religion happens to be one of the rudest conversations to get involved in (along with sexuality & politics.) It is so wasy to offend someone in mid conversation. On a recent visit to a coffee shop, I overheard a random conversation between two strangers (one male & one female) pertaining to a local church. The male bashed the church that the female attended calling it "watered down, dry & boring", the female fired back wanting to know what was so dry about her worship or how she recieved her praise?
Now I find things wrong here. I am not the holiest person on earth, nor am I the most sinful (though I may be close to it) I do know that judging someone elses worship and praise is never a good idea in the eyes of the lord. In recent years, Christianity has become a very combative commencement of people. You are either in or you're the devil (much like the Jehovah witnesses they detest)
My question today is: Have you ever been confronted with one of these Millitant Christians? If so, describe your encounter!
Takers took the #1 spot...
The film follows a group of professional bank robbers Michael Ealy, Chris Brown, Hayden Christensen, Paul Walker, Idris Elba who specialize in spectacular robberies, as they are pulled into one last job by a recently paroled cohort (T.I) only to be pitted against a hard-boiled detective (Matt Dillon) and his partner (Jay Hernandez) who interrupt their heist. Dubbed the male version of Set It Off, over the weekend the film snatched the number one spot (beating out Eli Roth's The Last Exorcism) earning $20,512,304. Also, the films attendance was 50% greater than similiar films such as Dead Presidents, ATL & Street Kings.
In my opinion, the film could have been just a few more minutes longer. I would have liked to see more action scenes and a little bit more character devolpment. Due to the lack of that, the film, at times felt like a sequel. Chris Brown did an awesome job and wowed me with his spider-man performance. While TI's acting & dialouge seemed a bit questionable at times, I do think he will devlop into a quite impressive actor. Just look at LL Cool J!
If you have not had a chance to check this movie out, it DOES live up to all the hype surrounding it!
Sidebar: Opening weekend Ti was all over Atlanta & surrounding areas buying movie goers tickets to the film. How lucky were they?
Will M.Night Shyamalan gain you back as a viewer?
Let's all not act as though The Sixth Sense was not one of the greatest suspense/thriller/horror movies of all time. There is no denying that. It seems as though each film that followed that blockbuster Shyamalan lost more and more fans. So join me as I take a breif second to review the "horror" films that followed in 5 words (or less):
Signs- Good but fell apart towards the end
The Village- What a waste of 2 hours
Lady In The Water- Horrible not Horror
The Happening- What just happened?
So... with that being said... I must say I am slightly excited about the Sept 17th release of his film Devil... Hopefully I won't be disappointed.
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